Read pages 38-40, from the middle of page 38, "So let’s talk about the jerks ..." down almost to the bottom of page 40, "Can we really be ..."
Dave and Dei are really talking for the first time. Two days before Dave despised Dei. The day before they had a tenuous truce. Today Dave has decided he needs to learn to like Dei, so he's making a very good effort.
Dei told Dave that she was sexually molested as a child. Her primary reason for doing so is that she had three previous love interests who left her after finding out about the abuse. She would prefer for Dave to leave before she gets too attached, so she tells him right away. Dave isn't concerned that it will affect Dei's married life. Which do you think is right, Dei or Dave? Does child sexual abuse destroy the chance of healthy sex in marriage? Why or why not? Can you find evidence in the Bible to support your position?
Towards the bottom of page 39, Dave kisses Dei to prove his point, that what happened to her didn't make her a passionless woman. He apologizes for doing it. Dave says he "way jumped the gun" by kissing her so soon. Do you agree with him? Our society approves of way more than that for what can be argued is a second date. Even some Christians think that kissing is okay early in dating. Do you think Dave has overstated things? Is he worried about something that shouldn't be an issue? Defend your position. Now look try to argue for the flip side of the question.
What does the Bible say about temptation? How do we stay sexually pure in a sexually promiscuous culture? Consider the fact that for you some things may be easier to deal with than for other people. (You may be able to kiss without flirting with temptation while someone else may not even be able to hold hands.) How is a Christian supposed to deal with the conflict of what's acceptable or not?
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