Read page 31, from the top down through about three-quarters of the page,"'Because neither of us ...."
Have you ever lived with lies because you were hurt or ashamed of your past? Did they really make things better, or was it an illusion? Have you ever had to deal with someone who lived with lies? Do you think Steve's advice is good? Why or why not?
The Bible talks about secrets being shouted from the housetops. See if you can find the passage. Use cross-references to find others. What does this teach you about trying to hide your past?
The Apostle Paul was often very open about his past, both about the things done to him and the things he did. Find some of those passages (in at least one he mentions being stoned, in another he counts his good as rubbish). In what context does Paul talk about his past? How does that help you understand when you should talk about your past? Are there any other verses that you can find that help you understand why you should not hide your past?
Why is it important to think about secrets at this stage in your life? How will they affect your future if you date and marry someone without revealing your secrets? What are specific steps you can take to begin to change? How can your friends best help you to change? Do you need to put your dating life on hold until you deal with some of your past hurts?
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